Welcome to Mighty Mamas, an ongoing series where mamas share their candid and raw thoughts on motherhood. Our intention is to create a supportive forum for sharing without judgment. Mamas - you are so mighty! Let's use that strength to build a powerful group of wonderful women who believe in motherhood.
Each week, we'll ask our mighty mamas a different question and get each of their perspectives. Join us here each Monday as mighty mamas talk motherhood.
Describe your first emotions upon becoming a mother.
"Well I didn't have 9 months to prepare like most mommas! When I became a foster mom 7 years ago I got a call asking if I would be willing to take care of a 6 month old baby boy and of course I said yes! I had a few hours to prepare for my new arrival. I was excited, scared and overwhelmed! Excited because I so wanted to help a child in the most chaotic time of their life, scared because I wasn't sure what I was getting into and overwhelmed with all the emotions you go through in the first few moments, minutes and days with a new person in your life that's depending on you to keep them safe, give them a sense of security and most of all loved!"
- Kayce, Mom to one, Preschool Teacher, Non Profit Founder
"Becoming a mother is such a tidal wave of emotions. For me, those first feelings can best be described as complete overwhelm. I was overwhelmed by trying to process the birth experience I hadn't planned on; overwhelmed by figuring out what in the world to do with a newborn; overwhelmed by the rush of all-encompassing love I felt for my son, powerful enough to distort all of my senses and change entirely the view with which I saw the world. Six years later, I can say that overwhelm still enjoys visiting me, on occasion."
-Aimee, Mom to three, Homeschooling Stay at Home Mom, Writer, Blogger
"It was such an overwhelming moment of joy and awe when my son was born (and my daughter too!). Everything came really naturally to me in those first moments. My son immediately latched on and started nursing, then fell asleep on my chest. I was so caught up in the love and cuddles, it wasn’t until hours later that I realized I had better start checking his diapers. Obviously I knew I would be changing many diapers, but that was overshadowed by all of the other awesome things that were happening."
- Brandi, Mom to two, Stay at Home Mom, Small Business Owner
"It was all the emotions, all the feels, banded together, all overwhelming, all at once. Immense joy and complete admiration and love for the little person in my arms. Subtle waves of sadness, emptiness and grief for him no longer being in my belly. Surprise that he was actually here. Anger, shame and disappointment at the last 22 hours of labor and delivery. Simultaneous fear and trust in my new role as his mother. All encompassing gratitude."
- Rachel, Mom to two, Marketing Business Analyst, Small Business Owner
"Awestruck wonder mingled with exhaustion, quickly followed by sheer terror. I kept telling myself, "Holy crap, I made a person! And I'm responsible for it! I better not screw this up!" The feelings of fierce maternal love took a few days to develop, and bonding was slow, but to this day, I am still overwhelmed by the fact that I made people, and incredible ones at that!"
-Kelly, Mom to two, School Secretary, Bookkeeper
"Overwhelming gratitude for life."
-Dana, Mom to five, Grandma to five, Teacher
"Awe. Joy. And a little bit of anxiety."
-Kasey, Mom to two, Attorney
"When my first twin was born, I remember a great relief and tears of joy. Having read a lot about twin pregnancies during my own, I was worried I might not be able to carry them long enough. I made it to 36 weeks and was induced due to one twin being smaller and my own rising blood pressure. My first twin came out crying, and I remember hearing the nurses say her Apgar score was 9. I was relieved I had done it - birthed a healthy baby, and just thrilled she was a girl, which I'd suspected all along."
- Amanda, Mom to three, Stay at Home Mom, Small Business Owner
"When I first met Nicholas and I held him in my arms, I felt enormous amounts of joy, love, anxiety and fear.
I was fearful and anxious about caring for a small baby, who would eventually grow into a big boy with feelings and his own personality. I was fearful that I wouldn't do a good job. I was anxious when he was not with me.
I thought I knew what love was, but I didn't understand the capacity I could love until Nicholas came into my life. The love often left me feeling breathless and teary-eyed, and like my heart was going to explode. "
-Yadhira, Mom to one, Engineering
"Haha, STRESS! Man, no one told me how stressful it would be to become a mom. Perhaps I should have just known, I don't know. Don't get me wrong - there was A LOT of JOY, happy tears and disbelief that this little human was mine but yeah, the stress was there."
- Komal, Mom to one, GIS Analyst, Small Business Owner
DESCRIBE YOUR FIRST EMOTIONS UPON BECOMING A MOTHER.
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