Welcome to Mighty Mamas, an ongoing series where mamas share their candid and raw thoughts on motherhood. Our intention is to create a supportive forum for sharing without judgment. Mamas - you are so mighty! Let's use that strength to build a powerful group of wonderful women who believe in motherhood.
Each week, we'll ask our mighty mamas a different question and get each of their perspectives. Join us here each Monday as mighty mamas talk motherhood.
How do you balance motherhood and staying true to yourself?
"I probably don't take as much time to recharge as I probably should but I do get pockets of kid free time here and there with the help of my mom. I'll do things I'm passionate about regarding foster care but then I'll get to go grocery shopping or run errands by myself. If I'm lucky I get to go out of town to visit friends kid free!"
- Kayce, Mom to one, Preschool Teacher, Non Profit Founder
"It was easy for me to get lost in motherhood. Only recently have I begun to honor myself and my needs, because I have realized how vital this is to my health and my home. Staying true to myself means spending time doing things that bring me joy, and doing so without any accompanying feelings of guilt. I feel most in tune with myself when I am creating, and for far too long I quieted my creative nature because I thought being a good mom meant being entirely selfless. However, now that I am dedicating time to art and writing and rediscovering my own talents, I am a much more completed version of myself; because of this, I now have even more to give to those that I love."
-Aimee, Mom to three, Homeschooling Stay at Home Mom, Writer, Blogger
"As I’m thinking about this question, I’m realizing that I’m probably not very good at this balancing act, however I honestly love spending most of my time with my kids and doing kid things! I guess I need to grow up. I do try to make time to fulfill some of my own interests occasionally, such as house decorating projects, riding my horse, reconnecting with friends, and working in my yard. On a daily basis, I try to exercise and I like to end most days with a warm bath after the kiddos are in bed. I feel very fortunate to have a supportive husband and lots of helpful family members that live close and who are always willing to give me a break when I need it!"
- Brandi, Mom to two, Stay at Home Mom, Small Business Owner
"This one is hard for me, because motherhood and being true to me are so closely wrapped up in each other. Motherhood has so completely become who I am. I am Rachel but I am always a mother. It's such a deep rooted part of me that it almost is me completely. I've come to believe that there is no balance, there is no magical method that means all parties are happy and nourished and going to be successful. There is only the daily struggle to chose the most important things and forget the rest. This always feels unbalanced but as mothers we simply cannot do everything and do it all well. So I suppose that unbalance is balance. We must choose and I think balance and staying true to yourself is being present and diligent in that choice over and over again, every single day."
- Rachel, Mom to two, Marketing Business Analyst, Small Business Owner
"I'm still figuring that out! Currently, I'm focusing on the theme of "permission" - giving myself permission to take care of myself, to pursue my interests and dreams, and to make mistakes. That, and a lot of coffee and naps!"
-Kelly, Mom to two, School Secretary, Bookkeeper
"On a good day, I remember that I am in charge of my life and can choose to spend my time however I choose. Most days, I'm still working on this one!"
-Dana, Mom to five, Grandma to five, Teacher
"I’m not sure those two things are in conflict with each other. While I sometimes have to remember to clean up my language, I don’t ever feel like I have to pretend to be someone else for my children. In fact, being a mother has encouraged me to stand up for the things I believe in for my children’s sake."
-Kasey, Mom to two, Attorney
"I'm not very good at this. This has been a journey, and I'm not done yet. The times I've had young infants (or particularly challenging toddler age combinations), I've not really done anything for myself other than the rare shower, but I was okay with that because I knew how temporary it would be. I've always valued my "alone time" and when my twins were little I remember thinking one day that literally the only "alone time" I had most days was when I would run down to the mailbox and grab the mail - maybe 30 seconds a day. But since then I've tried to be more conscious of the things I really enjoy doing outside of motherhood and doing them more often - reading books, spending time with friends and family, getting outdoors, drawing, etc."
- Amanda, Mom to three, Stay at Home Mom, Small Business Owner
"There are rare occasions when I can leave the house alone for "me" time. I will go get a pedicure, go clothes shopping, or hit up a happy hour while my son stays with his dad.
For the times when my son and I are together, I try to stay true to myself by dedicating more time involving my son in hobbies I used to have, or taking him with me to do fun things. We just started going on bike rides together. On weekends, we go to the park or the library, and enjoy a nice stroll downtown. My mom once told me that I don't have to stop doing the things I love because I have a child - I just have to be creative and involve him!"
-Yadhira, Mom to one, Engineering
"I don't have an answer for this one. I think, well, I know I'm still searching for this balance. Right now I'm ALL about my little one but do see and want to be more balanced with being true to myself. I'm just not there yet. And I'm OK with it for now but I know that eventually I need to work on finding that balance."
- Komal, Mom to one, GIS Analyst, Small Business Owner
HOW DO YOU BALANCE MOTHERHOOD AND STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF?
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