Remember back to before you were a mom. Did you have an idea about what motherhood would look like? Picture what you thought it would look like, and then compare it with real life. I bet the two pictures are pretty different. Maybe not in huge ways, but in the little details like being able to use the restroom alone, or the intensity of love for your child, or having a moment of time for yourself during the day. One is not bad and the other good; they are just different.
We asked our Mighty Mamas to share their thoughts and here is what they said.
HOW IS MOTHERHOOD DIFFERENT THAN YOU PICTURED?
"Oh gosh. When I was pregnant, I had this ridiculous fairy tale picture in my mind of this organically fed, well mannered, perfectly happy, family. I've quickly come to realize that I can simply do the best I can and that will look very different from day to day... In other words, I got quite the reality check! On the flip side, I also had no idea just how rewarding the ups and downs would be. I had no idea what it felt like to have my heart walk around outside of my body - it is a heavy yet most beautiful blessing."
"It is harder. SO much harder than I ever thought. But at the same time, it is filled with more love, and a different type of love than I could have ever imagined. Nothing can prepare you for the good and bad sides of parenthood.
Also - sleep deprivation. I thought I knew what lack of sleep was...then I had kids and laughed at pre-baby me."
"Your children are really born with their own personalities so how you wanted to parent them doesn't always go as planned and you have to figure out what works for the parents and the child. I have also learned patience which I didn't really have before and I have learned to laugh at the little things because sometimes when your child poops on you it can lighten the mood."
"I never imagined I would be so tired for so long. I knew infant life would be exhausting, but I never imagined the drama of an 8 year old girl and the social life of a middle-schooler would be quite so tiring. Even when they are sleeping, I am thinking and planning for them."
"I honestly thought I was going to be a particular way. But I have ended up being way more "crunchy" than I thought I would ever be. I also love breastfeeding WAY more than I ever thought I would. I have way more patience with my daughter than I ever thought. I am by no means perfect, and I know I will make mistakes but I think the biggest difference is that I usually plan every little thing out. But with being a mom I am more about taking each day at a time. I am not overly worried about the future, I am too busy living in the present."
"Motherhood involves a lot more heart and soul than I pictured. While I was pregnant with my first child I knew that there was going to be so much love that I would have. I didn’t realize how intense of a love it would be. I think the idea that I had of motherhood was just a glimmer and now that I’m starting to get deeper into motherhood, I’ve realized that there is so much love, patience, dedication in it. I never imagined how much I would still be able to grow as a person after becoming a mother. My children teach me new things about myself almost every day."
"Motherhood is so completely different than what I ever pictured since I have to do it on my own. I never thought I would be here in this situation. But truth be told, as time goes on, it is so much better than I thought it would be. Single parenting is hard but ever so rewarding."
"Obviously I knew motherhood would be exhausting, a never ending job. The part I didn't expect so much, was the worry of it all. Sometimes after hearing stories on the news about kids, I can't seem to stop thinking about the 'what if's' with my own children. I try not to do this because obviously it can drive a mom crazy! We can't protect our kids from everything, but I'm still surprised at how a fear of something that hasn't even happened to my family can make me so upset!"
"I think the biggest thing I did not imagine would be the constant feeling of always taking care of my baby. So, even if I get that girls night, I am still a mother whose actions matter because I have someone that I love so much and that little someone is relying on me. This isn't so much a heavy feeling, although at times it can be, but it is just a constant. That's it. Something that is truly part of my identity as a human. That can be kind of scary to think about! But also utterly amazing. Ah, the dynamics of motherhood!!"
"I expected more time to myself (insert laughing here). The bathroom has become my sanctuary!"
HOW IS MOTHERHOOD DIFFERENT THAN YOU PICTURED?
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