When you're unsure if you can figure out how to meet all the needs of this brand new human being, when the two year old falls down and gets the biggest goose egg you've ever seen, or when the big sister doesn't exactly fall in love with the new baby right away, who do you turn to? Who is your go-to person for parenting advice?
We asked our Mighty Mamas to share their thoughts and here is what they said.
WHO DO YOU TURN TO FOR PARENTING ADVICE?
"My mom is the first person I usually ask. I figure that if she raised 5 kids who all turned out okay (except for me...I turned out awesome! LOL), she must have some pretty good ideas. She's usually able to help me figure out a way to address whatever problem I'm currently dealing with."
"Family, fellow mamas, & friends! I'm like a sponge in this respect. I want to soak up as much information as possible and make very educated decisions. After getting various opinions, my husband and I decide how to handle everything together, but it all starts with gathering advice."
"My mom first for sure! I mean I think I turned out pretty okay, so why not go to the source? I also love to talk to my friends whose children are just a little older than my daughter. They just went through and conquered the challenges I'm seeking advice on so I find them to be very helpful and honest. Honesty (and kindness) is key to good advice! The community of mother's I found through my blog or Instagram have also been amazing in this department! As women we need a tribe of supportive women around us."
"I listen to a lot of different people-it's good to get an idea of how others do things-but I don't ever totally trust anyone. I think it's important for parents to be able to rely on themselves as much as anyone else-only you know your child. But if I'm ever wondering anything, I'll ask my mom."
"Most of my parenting advice has been found through online women’s support groups and reading mom blogs. Not many of my friends had children when I had mine, so the internet connected me with other young moms going through the exact same struggles at the exact same stage in life."
"Experienced moms - mainly those I know who are laid back and will not overwhelm me with information but will give fair and useful advice. "
"My mom is a pillar of foundation in my parenting. I am also lucky to have a close circle of mama friends that I go to with any immediate questions of parenting advice."
"My mom is my number one ... I probably ask her weekly for advice.
I'm also blessed to have a great group of girlfriends that all had the kids around the same time, so we constantly hit each other up for advice, support, help and sometimes just to vent. It's nice to have those people that are right there in the trenches with you, going thru similar parenting moments. "
"My mom, my sisters and my Mamafia (mommy friends) are my go-to experts. My mom had 5 of us, and while some of her advice might be outdated, it’s always worthwhile to ask for her thoughts and opinions. Two of my sisters and my mommy friends offer different perspectives and experiences to draw from, and I always find that their advice expands my own thinking about parenting situations I find myself in. It’s good for me, since I tend to get in so deep that I overthink things and am so mired in the details that I forget to back up and take a broader look at what I’m facing. They definitely help me stay real and present in my parenting."
"My parents are always a great source but parenting has changed somewhat from 25+ years ago. There are arguably more activities, more responsibilities, and higher expectations from parents and families. So when I need a mama I feel I can relate to I turn to my older sister, Jeni. She's got two boys of her own that are very close in age to my son, She has a husband in the military who often leaves for weeks or months at a time, and she works a full time job. While we don't live lifestyles that are identical, we can relate in a lot of ways that not many other peers in my life can help me with. I am a single parent 100% of the time, I work full time from home, and I raise my toddler full time from home as well. She keeps me level headed, she laughs with me about silly boy things, she understands what being a single mother (at times) can feel like, and she always has a new perspective to bring to the table. Not only is this woman my idol (in more ways than one) but she keeps her cool when the going gets tough and has talked me off many many meltdown ledges."
WHO DO YOU LOOK TO FOR PARENTING ADVICE?
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