10 MAMAS TELL US WHAT ALL MOTHERS COULD USE MORE OF

Do you feel like there's something all mothers could all use more of? Something that you can never have too much of?  Mothering can be a huge challenge - mamas, you know those days - and sometimes we could all use a little more ... "_____?"

We asked our Mighty Mamas to share their thoughts and here is what they said.

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE ALL MOTHERS COULD USE MORE OF?

"Time. And help with the laundry."

-Hannah, Mom to four, Freelance Writer and Seamstress

"Support and understanding. Being a mom is a tough gig no matter if you're a working mom or a SAHM. You cannot always be the best version of yourself because you're human and everyone has bad days. On those days, you need someone to lift you up, remind you that there's always tomorrow, and let you know that they can see how much you love your family."

-Beth, Mom to two, Domestic Engineer

"More support and a whole lot less judgement. Being a mom is HARD! With the influence of social media I think it has gotten a whole lot harder in some aspects. It is so easy for other people to see a snippet of someone's day and make a harsh assumption about that person (mom) as a whole. Accidents happen, people do things differently, and nobody is perfect. Even just a supportive smile/nod to the mom with the melting down child goes a LONG way. "

-Samantha, Mom to one, Student

"A little more understanding and a little less judgement. People are so quick to judge-forgetting that no one is a perfect parent, and someone is probably judging them at the same time. Instead, try to relate and understand the situation before making a judgement."

-Jasmine, Mom to one, Stay at Home Mom

"Wine. Need. More. Wine. Once the kids are tucked in, pour a glass of vin - you earned it, mom. There’s nothing quite like a glass of wine to unwind, relax, and say “cheers” to surviving another whirlwind day in mommy-hood. Celebrate the small victories! After all, that tantrum the toddler had in the store, pushing all the things off the shelf while running down the aisle, it could have been so much worse… it could have happened at the wine aisle, and that would have been a tragedy."

-Michelle, Mom to one, Construction Company Manager, Artist, and Blogger

"Support and kindness - if their kids are happy and healthy, there is no reason to judge how one parents."

-Kim, Mom to two, Stay at Home Mom

"Me time and self care. I think we all consciously have to make an effort to take care of ourselves. It's so easy to talk about needing it, but so hard to actually make time for ourselves. "

-JeeYoung, Mom to two, Consultant

"Support!

Being a mom is H-A-R-D! It's tiring, never ending, and filled with ups and downs. I know I would not be able to survive without help and support from my friends and family. We can't do it alone mamas, accept the help when offered!

I think support comes in a lot of forms too....from help babysitting, an extra pair of hands, delivering a hot meal to a new mom, a break when you feel like you are going to lose your mind, your husband bringing home dinner without even asking, your mom coming over to fold laundry when you are up to your ears, someone holding the door for you while you try to maneuver a double stroller thru a tiny door, or even just a reassuring "you are doing great" when you feel like you are failing miserably. "

-Brynn, Mom to two, Registered Dietician and Stay at Home Momma

"Two things I believe all mothers could use more of … Support from other moms and Me-Time. So often, moms wear themselves out taking care of everyone else’s needs ahead of their own. They forget that they need to take care of themselves, too. Whether that means making time for that exercise class, coffee with a friend or just a little time to escape the constant demands of motherhood, it’s important to get away from the kids for a while to refresh and renew. And during those times, if you can find other moms who can support you through the rough times and laugh with you through the fun times and cheer with you when it’s time to celebrate your wins, that’s all the better! We see enough judgment and criticism all over social media and often in our own families, so find a mommy tribe and make it a point to be there for each other."

-Ceci, Mom to three, Freelance Writer and Blogger

"Besides free time, massages, and hugs? Haha! I think more reassurance and more gratitude for all that we do would go a long way. As a single mom I don't have a partner to reassure me that I'm raising my child right, that I'm doing a good job, or that my efforts are noticed and appreciated. My son gives me hugs and kisses all the time, I make him laugh, and I've taught him everything he knows - I'm proud of myself and I know that one day he will look back and appreciate all that I've done for him. But in the meantime I wish that I had a few cheerleaders with louder voices. I think all people, whether parents or not, would appreciate a little more of that."

-Abi, Mom to one, Graphic Designer, WAHM, Stay at Home Mom


WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE ALL MOTHERS COULD USE MORE OF?

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